The World is Full of Controllers

This world is full of people who think it is necessary for someone else to change in order for them to be happy and fulfilled, and there are may places where such behavior is not only taught, but encouraged.

I've said it before, do unto others as you would have them do unto you.

The matter I'd like to point out here is that even though he is overtly controlling and demanding, you too are wanting to control him in that you want him to stop being controlling of you. He wants you to be different than you are, and you want him to be different than he is. It looks like a reflection of our own energy when we consider it objectively.

There is a way to find the peace and love (by the way, love isn't dependency, it is a state in being where you care deeply for yourself and radiate that to others via the way you interact with them,)

What can we control most effectively? It may not be very easy when you first attempt to do it, but gaining self control is where your power resides, where your well-being expresses most fully, when that self control is expressed in a kind and loving way. Sitting in a quiet place, where you won't be distracted or disturbed for a period of time, closing your eyes, and focusing your attention upon your breathing, in and out, calmly and without forcing, settles you and brings you closer to your true essence in being, where your divinity is present. It expresses when we are fully present in the moment by moment unfolding, as we consciously, with loving intention and attention walk the path of our life.

When we make someone do something they don't want to do, which doesn't engender well-being, that sends a message via our vibrational state, to the creative forces in the universe, that creates an imbalance in our state in being. In order for balance to be restored, what we've done to someone else must come back to us as the receiver of what we dished out. That is basically how Karma works. That is why I suggest treating others with love, kindness, compassion and caring, because as you express that way of life, it is telling the universe, "more of this, please." You can't pretend to be loving, caring and compassionate, you really have to fully embody those character traits in order to actually vibrate in that frequency of energy vibration.

During meditation, you can set the intention to find clarity, and guidance which will help you navigate your life in such a way that you are able to regain your balance, your pure and beautiful expression in being. Such guidance may come to you in your daily life, in unexpected ways, so be on the look out for what life is showing you and telling you.

I apologize for this being so long, but I hope what I've written is helpful.

By the way, let love be the light which radiates from the center of your being, allow it to radiate fully and freely, without conditions or expectations. You ARE a beautiful being of loving light, and you deserve all the beauty and wonderful things and people life has to offer to you.

Contrary to what Fyuri wrote, don't stop loving. Be the light which awakens the same in everyone around you. Consider our Sun, it radiates it's light unconditionally to the good, the bad and everyone and everything in between. Let that be the example for how you allow your love to grow and flow.

Blessings to us all!